Self-Help Archives

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WeConcile®, A Relationship App, User’s Guide

June 12, 2022June 20, 2022Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

WeConcile is not only the best relationship app, it is a tool for living. You can immediately change your focus, calm your swirling mind or your intense emotions. You can engage your thinking brain and gain new skills. You can learn and evaluate what needs to change and how to do it. Imagine a world of relational learning and tools at your fingertips. Imagine access to the science of love and information that the greatest minds in psychology have discovered and made available.

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The Emotional Abuser

January 2, 2022January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

We don’t start as little children wanting to be abusers. We often don’t even like how it feels to abuse. But somehow, somewhere, something happened.

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Abuse in Relationships – Reasons and Fixes

January 30, 2021January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

The last thing we want in a relationship or marriage is to feel abused. We want to know we are valued and important. We want love. Learn the why’s of abuse in a relationship and the fixes.

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Ideas for Self Care – Using Self Awareness

July 1, 2020January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Self care is an essential element of psychological health and impacts relationships. We’ll be looking at some ideas for self care using self awareness.

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Suicidality or Depression in Relationships

June 17, 2020January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Relationship problems and depression in relationships contribute to suicidality. Our need to be loved and cared for is so great, that when we feel that our relationship is falling apart, or we feel abandoned, the stress we experience can push us towards desperation and sometimes depression and suicide. We don’t always feel we can live without our connection to our partner.

Surviving Infidelity

May 4, 2020January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Infidelity is devastating to a relationship and makes a relationship emotionally unsafe for the person who has been cheated upon. Here is a roadmap to surviving infidelity.

Sex in Marriage

February 13, 2020January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Sexuality brings into contact our various needs, different desires, and different fantasies. Sexuality may carry with it, not just an expression of love, but our emotional baggage as well. You can learn to make your sexual relationship better.

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Intimacy in Marriage: Building Better Intimacy

December 5, 2019January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Intimacy usually refers to the state of having a close, personal, or romantic relationship with someone. We expect to have intimacy in marriage.

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Is Online Marriage Counseling Right for Us?

October 31, 2019January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

How does a couple know if online marriage counseling or an online relationship app is right for them? Let’s look at some different relationship growth choices. Marriage counseling helps couples learn new skills and ways of relating. In a sense, there is a peeling of the onion, where people become more aware of behaviors they […]

From the Founder of WeConcile – Using My Writing for Relationship Help

September 21, 2019March 15, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

My name is Jennifer Lehr, LMFT and I am the founder of WeConcile. I regularly share my experience and story, my knowledge, my struggles, and my vulnerabilities in my writing. I also share my expertise.

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Top 10 Relationship Tips from 10 Experts

August 27, 2019March 3, 2022Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Here are some relationship tips from relationship experts.

What Stops You From Your Courage?

July 12, 2019January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

And how that causes relationship problems I was listening to a YouTube by Sadhguru the other day and he asked, “What are you doing with your one precious life?” It is a great question. Sometimes we get stuck in something, whether a job, a relationship or a mindset or attitude. We may have given up […]

The Journey of Improving Our Relationships

July 5, 2019January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Reaching Our Goals For A Relationship How does having a significant illness relate to being in a relationship that doesn’t work? How do we take that understanding and apply it to improve our relationships? How do we reach our goals for a relationship? In 2016, when I was struggling with Lyme disease, in desperation, I […]

I Feel Lonely in My Marriage. What Can I Do?

June 24, 2019April 17, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

What should you do when you feel lonely in your relationship? Here are some steps to take.

Embrace the Suck

May 22, 2019January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Courage over comfort. That is the key. The primary vehicle for change in a relationship really is developing a better relationship with our own feelings and unpacking why we feel what we feel when we are having that feeling.

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Toughing It Out: How to Make a Relationship Better

February 3, 2014March 15, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

We all have emotional survival strategies that do not work. A common one is ‘going it alone,’ ‘sucking it up,’ or ‘toughing it out.’ We put our heads down, close our eyes and push forward. But we don’t know how to make a relationship better.

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Learn to Improve Communication for Marriage

December 2, 2013May 9, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Read a story about a couple as they communicate and see how they miscommunicate. This will help you with your own communication in your relationship.

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Learning to Reconnect

April 1, 2013January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

It had started like a regular day weekend day. John and Patti were taking a walk. The sun was shining. Life was good. But then, John sheepishly told Patti that he would not be working on a project they had told Patti he was going to do, and that had been planned for that weekend.

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Standing In Your Shoes: Advice for a Relationship

December 16, 2012March 15, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

I was recently talking to Cathy, a friend of mine. She and her girlfriend Sammy were having a tough time in their relationship and had just gotten into a fight. She explained what had happened. They were decorating the house for the holidays together, but Sammy got upset and said it was all for her, her tree, her project. She lashed out at Cathy and left. From Cathy’s perspective, Sammy was having a temper tantrum. She didn’t understand why Sammy was getting so upset. Why couldn’t they have a nice evening together? What went wrong?

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Emotional Health & Emotionally Abusive Relationships

November 5, 2010March 15, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Emotions are intense. They rock us. We have to deal with them. Someone says something the wrong way, or we are in a difficult situation and all of a sudden we might find ourselves in a fury, or in deep grief, or perhaps an awful sense of embarrassment and shame as if we are ‘bad’.

When we are in these feeling places we usually don’t have any perspective or not much.