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WeConcile®, A Relationship App, User’s Guide

June 12, 2022June 20, 2022Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

WeConcile is not only the best relationship app, it is a tool for living. You can immediately change your focus, calm your swirling mind or your intense emotions. You can engage your thinking brain and gain new skills. You can learn and evaluate what needs to change and how to do it. Imagine a world of relational learning and tools at your fingertips. Imagine access to the science of love and information that the greatest minds in psychology have discovered and made available.

Relationship Help for Reactivity

May 18, 2022May 18, 2022Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

We’ve all lost our shit. Yelled, screamed, slammed doors, or simply shut down, mute and immobile. Frozen in fear and uncertainty, or trapped in placating to keep the peace.

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The Emotional Abuser

January 2, 2022January 7, 2022Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

We don’t start as little children wanting to be abusers. We often don’t even like how it feels to abuse. But somehow, somewhere, something happened.

When Masculinity Is Fragile. When It Is Not.

June 6, 2021June 17, 2021Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Masculinity is often identified with strength, courage, independence, leadership, power, and assertiveness. But built into that style of masculinity is fragility.

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The Jealous Relationship & What To Do

April 24, 2021April 24, 2021Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Are you in a jealous relationship? Jealousy is a feeling that often comes with specific actions.Learn what it is and how to repair it.

Calming Down and Managing Your Feelings

April 3, 2021April 3, 2021Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Getting upset is part of every relationship. It is important to learn how to get through these upset times, especially until we develop the skills that allow us to resolve our conflict quickly and easily.

Loving Kindness in a Relationship

March 6, 2021January 27, 2022Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

When I was a teenager, I threw a hammer at my sister, narrowly missing her head. Now, all these years later, I cannot remember what we were fighting about. What I do know is that when I was younger, I had terrible wounds. These wounds, such as feelings of being ignored, pushed around, not heard, not cared about, etc., caused me to at times to erupt.

Loving kindness is incredibly important in our relationships. It means we have an active interest in others, we are friendly and open hearted. We have good will and want the best for our partner and others.

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Abuse in Relationships – Reasons and Fixes

January 30, 2021June 6, 2021Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

The last thing we want in a relationship or marriage is to feel abused. We want to know we are valued and important. We want love. Learn the why’s of abuse in a relationship and the fixes.

Learn the Keys to a Happy Marriage

December 27, 2020January 1, 2021Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

You met the one. Dating was exciting. Getting engaged filled you with hope. You planned and survived a wedding. You may have children, young or grown. Early in your relationship, you imagined a future filled with the bliss you felt when you first met. But something went wrong. You feel wounded, resentful, not fully trusting. […]

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Problems in a Relationship – Hot to Cold

November 28, 2020November 28, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

I am having problems in a relationship. I recently moved in with my partner, and our relationship was going well. We got into a fight, and then all of a sudden, it felt like it was over. I am confused. How does someone go from hot to cold so quickly? I feel angry and scared. I feel abandoned. And I can’t find a way to talk about my feelings with him. He is so defensive and just keeps explaining and rationalizing. He isn’t able to hear me. What is going on? What should I do?