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Problems in a Relationship – Hot to Cold

November 28, 2020November 28, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

I am having problems in a relationship. I recently moved in with my partner, and our relationship was going well. We got into a fight, and then all of a sudden, it felt like it was over. I am confused. How does someone go from hot to cold so quickly? I feel angry and scared. I feel abandoned. And I can’t find a way to talk about my feelings with him. He is so defensive and just keeps explaining and rationalizing. He isn’t able to hear me. What is going on? What should I do?

How We Make Love, Not War: In Each Other’s Care

October 28, 2020October 29, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

How do we make love, not war? All couples are in each other’s care…whether they know it or not. Unfortunately, couples often struggle with this basic principle of creating a happy relationship. Why? What is going on? Andy and Dot Let’s take an example. Dot and Andy are moving in together. They are both successful […]

Regrets Over a Long Term Relationship

October 1, 2020October 2, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

Sometimes we meet the right person at the wrong time. I met Joe 10 years before my first marriage. We spent about 2 years together. I didn’t have the tools I needed at that time. I needed more experiences, more disappointments, and more lessons before I would be ready to commit to working through the […]

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Using Attachment Types to Improve Communication

August 31, 2020September 1, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

You are your partner are struggling. You don’t understand what is happening or why you keep getting stuck, having seemingly the same fight over and over. You love each other, but your relationship isn’t flowing. You want to learn how to improve communication skills so you can solve this problem. You can learn about attachment […]

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Grow Your Relationship with an Attachment Style Quiz

August 12, 2020August 26, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

We often don’t realize the power we have to improve our lives. Learning more about our attachment style gives us tools to enable us to understand more about how our minds work. Understanding attachment helps us understand how we relate and how we’ve learned to cope with relationship stress and, ultimately, how we are wired. An attachment style quiz or WeConcile’s relationship quality quiz can help us get started. (You’ll find links later in this article.)

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Are You Arguing in a Relationship?

July 27, 2020July 27, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

Arguing in a relationship, fighting in a relationship, or having conflict in a relationship are painful roadblocks to connection. Yet, as we learn to understand what drives our conflict, we can change how we relate and open new paths of growth between us.

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Ideas for Self Care – Using Self Awareness

July 1, 2020July 1, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

Self care is an essential element of psychological health and impacts relationships. We’ll be looking at some ideas for self care using self awareness.

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Suicidality or Depression in Relationships

June 17, 2020June 18, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

Relationship problems and depression in relationships contribute to suicidality. Our need to be loved and cared for is so great, that when we feel that our relationship is falling apart, or we feel abandoned, the stress we experience can push us towards desperation and sometimes depression and suicide. We don’t always feel we can live without our connection to our partner.

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Skills for Resolving Conflict in a Relationship

May 30, 2020July 16, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

When a couple gets into a conflict, they generally get caught on the surface or problem level. Several things need to happen to resolve the conflict. You’ll learn about the necessary skills for resolving conflict in a relationship in this article.

Surviving Infidelity

May 4, 2020July 29, 2020Jennifer Lehr, MFT

Infidelity is devastating to a relationship and makes a relationship emotionally unsafe for the person who has been cheated upon. Here is a roadmap to surviving infidelity.