Stop Being A Doormat
Being a doormat means we in a relationship we are the one who gets stepped on. We are the one who is just there, without needs.
Marriage & Relationship Help
Secure Attachment – How to Create It
Wounds, Triggers (and Attachment Needs) The following short 90-second video is one of my favorites of those I’ve done recently – because it clearly outlines why we get upset and what we must understand to reduce conflict. It addresses one of the keys to fixing a relationship: understanding our attachment needs, how they relate to […]
WeConcile®, A Relationship App, User’s Guide
WeConcile is not only the best relationship app, it is a tool for living. You can immediately change your focus, calm your swirling mind or your intense emotions. You can engage your thinking brain and gain new skills. You can learn and evaluate what needs to change and how to do it. Imagine a world of relational learning and tools at your fingertips. Imagine access to the science of love and information that the greatest minds in psychology have discovered and made available.
Relationship Help for Reactivity
We’ve all lost our shit. Yelled, screamed, slammed doors, or simply shut down, mute and immobile. Frozen in fear and uncertainty, or trapped in placating to keep the peace.
The Emotional Abuser
We don’t start as little children wanting to be abusers. We often don’t even like how it feels to abuse. But somehow, somewhere, something happened.
When Masculinity Is Fragile. When It Is Not.
Masculinity is often identified with strength, courage, independence, leadership, power, and assertiveness. But built into that style of masculinity is fragility.
The Jealous Relationship & What To Do
Are you in a jealous relationship? Jealousy is a feeling that often comes with specific actions.Learn what it is and how to repair it.
Calming Down and Managing Your Feelings
Getting upset is part of every relationship. It is important to learn how to get through these upset times, especially until we develop the skills that allow us to resolve our conflict quickly and easily.
Loving Kindness in a Relationship
When I was a teenager, I threw a hammer at my sister, narrowly missing her head. Now, all these years later, I cannot remember what we were fighting about. What I do know is that when I was younger, I had terrible wounds. These wounds, such as feelings of being ignored, pushed around, not heard, not cared about, etc., caused me to at times to erupt.
Loving kindness is incredibly important in our relationships. It means we have an active interest in others, we are friendly and open hearted. We have good will and want the best for our partner and others.
Abuse in Relationships – Reasons and Fixes
The last thing we want in a relationship or marriage is to feel abused. We want to know we are valued and important. We want love. Learn the why’s of abuse in a relationship and the fixes.
Learn the Keys to a Happy Marriage
You met the one. Dating was exciting. Getting engaged filled you with hope. You planned and survived a wedding. You may have children, young or grown. Early in your relationship, you imagined a future filled with the bliss you felt when you first met. But something went wrong. You feel wounded, resentful, not fully trusting. […]
Problems in a Relationship – Hot to Cold
I am having problems in a relationship. I recently moved in with my partner, and our relationship was going well. We got into a fight, and then all of a sudden, it felt like it was over. I am confused. How does someone go from hot to cold so quickly? I feel angry and scared. I feel abandoned. And I can’t find a way to talk about my feelings with him. He is so defensive and just keeps explaining and rationalizing. He isn’t able to hear me. What is going on? What should I do?
Using Attachment Types to Improve Communication
You are your partner are struggling. You don’t understand what is happening or why you keep getting stuck, having seemingly the same fight over and over. You love each other, but your relationship isn’t flowing. You want to learn how to improve communication skills so you can solve this problem. You can learn about attachment […]
Grow Your Relationship with an Attachment Style Quiz
We often don’t realize the power we have to improve our lives. Learning more about our attachment style gives us tools to enable us to understand more about how our minds work. Understanding attachment helps us understand how we relate and how we’ve learned to cope with relationship stress and, ultimately, how we are wired. An attachment style quiz or WeConcile’s relationship quality quiz can help us get started. (You’ll find links later in this article.)
Are You Arguing in a Relationship?
Arguing in a relationship, fighting in a relationship, or having conflict in a relationship are painful roadblocks to connection. Yet, as we learn to understand what drives our conflict, we can change how we relate and open new paths of growth between us.
Ideas for Self Care – Using Self Awareness
Self care is an essential element of psychological health and impacts relationships. We’ll be looking at some ideas for self care using self awareness.
Suicidality or Depression in Relationships
Relationship problems and depression in relationships contribute to suicidality. Our need to be loved and cared for is so great, that when we feel that our relationship is falling apart, or we feel abandoned, the stress we experience can push us towards desperation and sometimes depression and suicide. We don’t always feel we can live without our connection to our partner.
Surviving Infidelity
Infidelity is devastating to a relationship and makes a relationship emotionally unsafe for the person who has been cheated upon. Here is a roadmap to surviving infidelity.
Build Relationships (Instead of Breaking Them)
How to Save Your Marriage
You can learn how to save your marriage whether your partner is willing to work on your marriage or not.