Relationship help Archives

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WeConcile®, A Relationship App, User’s Guide

June 12, 2022September 25, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

WeConcile is not only the best relationship app, it is a tool for living. You can immediately change your focus, calm your swirling mind or your intense emotions. You can engage your thinking brain and gain new skills. You can learn and evaluate what needs to change and how to do it. Imagine a world of relational learning and tools at your fingertips. Imagine access to the science of love and information that the greatest minds in psychology have discovered and made available.

Relationship Help for Reactivity

May 18, 2022September 25, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

We’ve all lost our shit. Yelled, screamed, slammed doors, or simply shut down, mute and immobile. Frozen in fear and uncertainty, or trapped in placating to keep the peace.

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Ideas for Self Care – Using Self Awareness

July 1, 2020September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Self care is an essential element of psychological health and impacts relationships. We’ll be looking at some ideas for self care using self awareness.

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Suicidality or Depression in Relationships

June 17, 2020January 29, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Relationship problems and depression in relationships contribute to suicidality. Our need to be loved and cared for is so great, that when we feel that our relationship is falling apart, or we feel abandoned, the stress we experience can push us towards desperation and sometimes depression and suicide. We don’t always feel we can live without our connection to our partner.

Build Relationships (Instead of Breaking Them)

April 20, 2020September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

You can use this step by step guide to help you build your relationship.

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The Sexless Marriage: Steps to Restore Sexual Intimacy

November 26, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Sex in a relationship can be an expression of love and connection and the giving and receiving of physical pleasure. When we think of marriage, we believe that a sexual relationship will be a natural expression of the union of love. What does it really mean to be sexless in your relationship?

From the Founder of WeConcile – Using My Writing for Relationship Help

September 21, 2019September 11, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

My name is Jennifer Lehr, LMFT and I am the founder of WeConcile. I regularly share my experience and story, my knowledge, my struggles, and my vulnerabilities in my writing. I also share my expertise.

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Top 10 Relationship Tips from 10 Experts

August 27, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Here are some relationship tips from relationship experts.

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The Real Relationship: Working it Out – Learn to Love

July 18, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

The real relationship happened last night. I had been struggling, feeling stuck, pushing myself in ways that were leaving me frustrated, angry, and sad. My husband was mad at me for this. He pulled away and let me struggle. Finally, I said, “Why aren’t you helping me? Why have you left me alone in this?” […]

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Untangling Love

July 12, 2019July 29, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

In my family, love was hidden under other agendas. Learning how to truly love (both self and others) has been a life path for me.

I Feel Lonely in My Marriage. What Can I Do?

June 24, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

What should you do when you feel lonely in your relationship? Here are some steps to take.

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Saying No to Someone You Love

June 18, 2019July 29, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

For some of us, saying no is easy. And for others, it is something that needs to be developed.

Embrace the Suck

May 22, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Courage over comfort. That is the key. The primary vehicle for change in a relationship really is developing a better relationship with our own feelings and unpacking why we feel what we feel when we are having that feeling.

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Toughing It Out: How to Make a Relationship Better

February 3, 2014March 15, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

We all have emotional survival strategies that do not work. A common one is ‘going it alone,’ ‘sucking it up,’ or ‘toughing it out.’ We put our heads down, close our eyes and push forward. But we don’t know how to make a relationship better.

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Learning to Reconnect

April 1, 2013September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

It had started like a regular day weekend day. John and Patti were taking a walk. The sun was shining. Life was good. But then, John sheepishly told Patti that he would not be working on a project they had told Patti he was going to do, and that had been planned for that weekend.

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Using the Science of Love to Help Us With Our Couple’s Goals

October 17, 2010September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Working with couples effectively means you understand the three dimensions of our relationships: Attachment, emotions and cycles. Learn about what needs to be focused on to do effective couples work, or to work on your own relationship.

How to Make a Relationship Work Long Term

July 18, 2010September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

What happens when we have a dream, but fail at it? We become failed heroes, initiates who do not pass the test. Culturally, marriage is one of those precarious paths that many embark upon, but not so many navigate successfully. And yet relationships and the experience of love are so important.

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How Past Pain Causes Conflict in Relationships

April 6, 2010September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

When wounds collide, we suffer and we don’t feel safe. Our partner becomes somebody we no longer trust. It is one of the most painful aspects of a relationship. When we are scared, we act in ways that do not help our relationships. When we feel safe, our relationships can blossom.