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Loving Kindness in a Relationship

March 6, 2021September 11, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

When I was a teenager, I threw a hammer at my sister, narrowly missing her head. Now, all these years later, I cannot remember what we were fighting about. What I do know is that when I was younger, I had terrible wounds. These wounds, such as feelings of being ignored, pushed around, not heard, not cared about, etc., caused me to at times to erupt.

Loving kindness is incredibly important in our relationships. It means we have an active interest in others, we are friendly and open hearted. We have good will and want the best for our partner and others.

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Finding Trust In a Relationship and Ourselves

March 16, 2020September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Learning how to trust ourselves is part of creating trust in a relationship.

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Getting Ready for Mr. or Ms. Right

December 31, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Getting ready for marriage or a relationship Are you waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right? Are you in a relationship you want to improve? Perhaps you are getting ready for marriage or a relationship? You can learn more about how to create your best relationship. The science of love helps us understand what is needed […]

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The Sexless Marriage: Steps to Restore Sexual Intimacy

November 26, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Sex in a relationship can be an expression of love and connection and the giving and receiving of physical pleasure. When we think of marriage, we believe that a sexual relationship will be a natural expression of the union of love. What does it really mean to be sexless in your relationship?

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Love and Treachery

September 16, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

I’m in a FB group where people are looking for advice, support, and help with their relationships and marriages. There are issues of trust, intimacy issues and much more. It makes me feel sad. But you can choose to heal your relationship.

A Shift in Perspective

August 21, 2019July 29, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

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The Real Relationship: Working it Out – Learn to Love

July 18, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

The real relationship happened last night. I had been struggling, feeling stuck, pushing myself in ways that were leaving me frustrated, angry, and sad. My husband was mad at me for this. He pulled away and let me struggle. Finally, I said, “Why aren’t you helping me? Why have you left me alone in this?” […]

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Untangling Love

July 12, 2019July 29, 2020Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

In my family, love was hidden under other agendas. Learning how to truly love (both self and others) has been a life path for me.

The Journey of Improving Our Relationships

July 5, 2019September 21, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Reaching Our Goals For A Relationship How does having a significant illness relate to being in a relationship that doesn’t work? How do we take that understanding and apply it to improve our relationships? How do we reach our goals for a relationship? In 2016, when I was struggling with Lyme disease, in desperation, I […]

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Marriage Rescue: When Love Stops Working

July 18, 2009September 25, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

When relationships stop working, there is often a wound that needs to be attended to. Many of us grew up in homes with various kinds of disconnection occurring. Whether our caretakers were preoccupied, angry, needy or impatient, we may at times have felt uncared about. We may have lost someone we loved, or have been completely disregarded or abused. As children, we had to survive this pain. We may have learned to push our feelings out of our awareness. Ultimately, we developed ways to tolerate and survive these disconnects. These are the survival techniques that we have brought into our current relationships. And they often don’t work.

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How to Make Your Relationship Last

January 18, 2009November 6, 2023Jennifer J. Lehr, LMFT

Making love last is a concern for anybody with a relationship history that has included disappointment, pain and loss. How do we do it differently the next time around?

What starts for so many as a blissful connected loving state often turns into sadness riddled with problematic behavior and seemingly un-resolvable conflicts.