And how that causes relationship problems
I was listening to a YouTube by Sadhguru the other day and he asked, “What are you doing with your one precious life?” It is a great question. Sometimes we get stuck in something, whether a job, a relationship or a mindset or attitude. We may have given up fighting the situation. Or we may hold onto a bad attitude. Or we may be pushing down our real feelings because we feel sad about thinking we are powerless or trapped and want to avoid those feelings. This causes both self and relationship problems.
If we truly value ourselves and our life, we have to tackle whatever we feel stuck in.
In order to do this, we must find our courage. With courage we can make the possibility of what we want a reality; we can begin a journey that will take us from where we are, to where we wish to be. Without courage, we will stay stuck.
What stops people from finding their courage?
· I don’t believe change is possible.
· I don’t believe I deserve what I want.
· I don’t believe I have the capacity to do what is needed.
· I am not supposed to rock the boat.
· I feel safer staying in what is familiar.
· Discomfort and vulnerability scare me, so I don’t persevere.
Despite my parent’s limitations, my father always told me to follow my heart and do what I loved. And life created circumstances that pushed me to look at myself. As I learned about how I would get myself stuck (I’ve been stuck many times) and began to look at and change those parts of myself, I slowly unhooked from beliefs that stopped me.
I still get curve balls thrown at me. I still fall into emotionality at times. But I know I am free to choose what I want my life to be. I know change is possible. I do not accept limitations. I am willing to sit in discomfort. I focus on making the journey itself engaging instead of grasping at an outcome.
This helps me in my life and helps me with relationship problems.
Who are you? Where do you get stuck? What stops you from your courage?
Courage will help you get unstuck.
Learn about setting boundaries here: https://blog.weconcile.com/2010/10/08/setting-boundaries/
Originally published in Live Your Life On Purpose June 22nd, 2019 https://medium.com/live-your-life-on-purpose/what-stops-you-from-your-courage-ebe689d583a4